Old School Parenting? 6 Ways to Help Build Confident and Capable Kids!

Climbing Rocks_JordanFear. Anxiety. Risky-play. Frustration. Hunger.

These are what we parents try to protect our children from… right?

This is something I have really been struggling with, lately (with twin teenagers!). We all want to see our children develop into confident, capable, responsible individuals that exercise good judgment. Yet, I feel that every time I step in to ‘help’ my children avoid a potentially painful consequence I’m also preventing them from learning valuable lessons. It really is a balancing act!

A recent Huffington Post Blog post by Christine Gross-Loh really hit home!

From: Flickr user Brandy Shaul http://www.flickr.com/photos/zoologist/

From: Flickr user Brandy Shaul http://www.flickr.com/photos/zoologist/

  • Risky play helps kids develop a sound sense of being able to judge what they can/cannot do.
  • Waiting to eat until you’re truly hungry (and eating together as a family) is healthier (as opposed to continuous grazing).
  • Frustration and delayed-gratification help kids develop patience and self-control.
  • Learning OUTSIDE of the classroom may be more important than classroom learning. Play, music, art and life skills are essential!
  • Hurrying independence by encouraging independent sleep does not an independent child make!
  • Making children very aware that their ‘family responsibility’ or obligation is to work hard at school actually helps their achievement and motivation.

I highly recommend reading Gross-Loh’s blog post AND remembering to keep the idea of moderation in mind.

Fear, Anxiety, Risky-play,  Frustration, Hunger, and Delayed Gratification are good for our kids! Moderation is the key.

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