These are what we parents try to protect our children from… right?
This is something I have really been struggling with, lately (with twin teenagers!). We all want to see our children develop into confident, capable, responsible individuals that exercise good judgment. Yet, I feel that every time I step in to ‘help’ my children avoid a potentially painful consequence I’m also preventing them from learning valuable lessons. It really is a balancing act!
A recent Huffington Post Blog post by Christine Gross-Loh really hit home!
- Risky play helps kids develop a sound sense of being able to judge what they can/cannot do.
- Waiting to eat until you’re truly hungry (and eating together as a family) is healthier (as opposed to continuous grazing).
- Frustration and delayed-gratification help kids develop patience and self-control.
- Learning OUTSIDE of the classroom may be more important than classroom learning. Play, music, art and life skills are essential!
- Hurrying independence by encouraging independent sleep does not an independent child make!
- Making children very aware that their ‘family responsibility’ or obligation is to work hard at school actually helps their achievement and motivation.
I highly recommend reading Gross-Loh’s blog post AND remembering to keep the idea of moderation in mind.
Fear, Anxiety, Risky-play, Frustration, Hunger, and Delayed Gratification are good for our kids! Moderation is the key.